How To Flirt With Girls

Flirting with women is frequently associated with compliments.

However you should never compliment a woman when first meeting her. This is because when you do give her a compliment you will be; ordinary and just like every other guy that tried to flirt with her.

Instead you want to stand out from the crowd and be unique. In other words someone she 'connects with.'

Initially focus on just three aspects:

1. Smiling

2. Eye Contact

3. Listening

Smiling

When you smile at a girl you are flirting with her. You do not smile at things you don't like, instead by our biological design we smile at things we do like.

Also when women smile they are much more attractive than when they are not. Thus, when you smile you will be showing her your most physically attractive side.

You should smile at her when you initially meet her. You can also smile at any time during the conversation, you will be surprised at how often she will smile back.

Quick Tip - Don't smile at her if she is telling you how bad her day is, how abusive her dad was, or any other equally inappropriate time!

Eye Contact

When you meet women it is VERY important to look them in the eye. It is just as important to maintain eye contact when you are talking with them.

This shows that you are attentive and listening. Also when you smile at her and are looking her in the eye it has a much better effect than looking at your shoes and smiling. And it shows confidence!

Listening

If a woman doesn't feel like you are listening to her you have no chance. It does not matter what she is talking about she must feel like you are listening to her.

You can 'listen' to her by asking follow up questions.

For example; if your ice breaker is "Where are you from?"

And she tells you "Right Here" you would respond with questions such as:

- Does all your family live here too?

- Do you plan to stay here?

- If you could go anywhere, where would it be?

This way you are showing you were listening by asking appropriate questions and that you are interested in what she has to say by asking her additional follow up questions (I suggest 2 or 3 follow up questions).

You need to realize too that you should answer your own questions. So using the earlier example we will say your follow up question was "Do you plan to stay here" and she responded with

"Well, I don't really know yet. All my family is here but I want kind of want to see some more of the world"

You could respond with; "Yea, I totally understand. My brother lives in NY and is starting a family soon. I would like to get back up there especially when he has a family but right now I am just not ready."

By answering your own questions she will feel like she is getting to know you.

Connection

When you do these things effectively you will create a connection with women. Creating a connection with women is effective flirting.

What About Saying Something To Flirt?

If you are thinking of a pick up line - I do not suggest using it. The best result of a pick up line is getting a woman to smile or laugh.

There are things you can say to women about making out or how cute they look. However this is more advanced and varries greatly with each woman and how long you have known them.

The three aspects are the basics of effective flirting. First work on those and then you can learn the more integral aspects of flirting. However you will never need anything more than the three basics!

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